The authors are very sympathetic towards anxious types who are portrayed as victims throughout the whole book while avoidant types are portrayed as cold, selfish, and abusive.

Another reviewer mentioned subconscious bias and I have to agree. The little bit I learned about the importance of having a secure base and deactivation techniques and protest behavior was overshadowed by the negative way they portrayed people like me. The whole book is really filtered through an anxious lens. The glorification of anxious types only increased from there. I knew something was up when the chapter dedicated to explaining anxious attachment was twice as long as the chapter dedicated to avoidant attachment. I'm convinced that all the 5 star reviews must be from anxiously attached people because this book offers nothing for anyone else lol. An insightful look at the science behind love, Attached offers readers a road map for building stronger, more fulfilling connections. It also offers readers a wealth of advice on how to navigate their relationships more wisely given their attachment style and that of their partner. * SECURE people feel comfortable with intimacy and are usually warm and loving.Īttached guides readers in determining what attachment style they and their mate (or potential mates) follow. * AVOIDANT people equate intimacy with a loss of independence and constantly try to minimize closeness.

* ANXIOUS people are often preoccupied with their relationships and tend to worry about their partner's ability to love them back. According to attachment theory, every person behaves in relationships in one of three distinct ways: In Attached, Levine and Heller trace how these evolutionary influences continue to shape who we are in our relationships today. Also central to attachment theory is the discovery that our need to be in a close relationship with one or more individuals is embedded in our genes. Attachment theory forms the basis for many bestselling books on the parent/child relationship, but there has yet to be an accessible guide to what this fascinating science has to tell us about adult romantic relationships-until now.Īttachment theory owes its inception to British psychologist and psychoanalyst John Bowlby, who in the 1950s examined the tremendous impact that our early relationships with our parents or caregivers has on the people we become. Heller reveal how an understanding of attachment theory-the most advanced relationship science in existence today-can help us find and sustain love. In this groundbreaking book, psychiatrist and neuroscientist Amir Levine and psychologist Rachel S.

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